In this article we're going to look at an example of typical Persecutor-Victim language.
When Persecutors speak they tend to use words and phrases meant to "dis" others as a way to protect themselves from the attack they consider inevitable. Rather than rescuing others, Persecutor-Victims tend to verbally attack.
Starting Gate Persecutors, you may remember are in a perpetual defensive posture because they see the world as out to get them and thus feel desperate to protect themselves.
Persecutor language reflects the cynicism and defensiveness of their beliefs. They use comeback remarks such as, "Whatever!" "What's your problem?" "What's it to you?"
Frequently used cut downs and stinging barbs are often the verbal response given when we are operating out of Persecutor-Victim mode. Such barbs and verbal attack, meant to protect, instead foster movement around the Victim Triangle(TM).
Through such word choices, we build walls that keep us separate from others and land us in the victim position by inviting the very attack we are trying to protect ourselves from.
A healthier response, rather than "whatever!" might be, "I don't prefer it but I am willing to compromise or negotiate so we might both be satisfied."
To verbalize concerns and anxiety in a straight forward way that does not blame or attack is the very best way to protect and take care of ourselves.
Practice holding your tongue when feeling defensive and rephrasing your words in a way that invites clearing rather than further attack.
Starting Gate Persecutors, you may remember are in a perpetual defensive posture because they see the world as out to get them and thus feel desperate to protect themselves.
Persecutor language reflects the cynicism and defensiveness of their beliefs. They use comeback remarks such as, "Whatever!" "What's your problem?" "What's it to you?"
Frequently used cut downs and stinging barbs are often the verbal response given when we are operating out of Persecutor-Victim mode. Such barbs and verbal attack, meant to protect, instead foster movement around the Victim Triangle(TM).
Through such word choices, we build walls that keep us separate from others and land us in the victim position by inviting the very attack we are trying to protect ourselves from.
A healthier response, rather than "whatever!" might be, "I don't prefer it but I am willing to compromise or negotiate so we might both be satisfied."
To verbalize concerns and anxiety in a straight forward way that does not blame or attack is the very best way to protect and take care of ourselves.
Practice holding your tongue when feeling defensive and rephrasing your words in a way that invites clearing rather than further attack.
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